Today I went to Urgent Care. I just couldn’t wait to see my doctor tomorrow at 10:15. I needed to talk to a professional, have my fears put to rest, or validated. I needed something other than my own fear repeating itself in my head.
On Friday I had one of the worst head pains I’ve had in my entire life, besides three months ago when I had the exact same thing happen. Last time, though, the event had started with a headache, so I figured the extreme headache/pain was just from over exertion. You see, the event was that I was having some rocking sex with the hubs. Last time, I blamed the skull exploding pain on having a headache before all the orgasm fun started. I mean, orgasms can really take a lot out of you. Soon after, I forgot about it. This time though, this time there was no headache. I felt great, but with each orgasm (if I have one, I have more… it’s like magic), the head pain got worse. I didn’t black out, but I’d assume I was close. Ten minutes later the headache had subsided and I fell asleep. I had a little residual head pain the next day, but the extreme pain haunted me.
I figured it was a fluke. I’d had this happen once before, maybe it was something I ate, something I had done that day… I just don’t know. So Saturday we had sex again (PCOS gives me super high sex drive — i’m one of the lucky ones, that’s not super common). No big O this time, as it was a quicky, but the closer I got to the big O, the worse my head felt. Luckily, no big O meant no brain bursting pain. Now I was worried. Why did this happen two days in a row? Was there something wrong? No way….
Last night was my birthday. The hubs was being very generous, again. I had to stop him because the closer I got, the worse it got. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t have an orgasm. I was so scared of the pain that had already started, and the pain that was coming. I stopped my husband from “working” and we finished the deed. As soon as we were done I burst into tears. Now I was scared. What was happening to me? Why can’t I have sex?
I had researched it after Friday, but now I was sure that I needed to go to the doctor asap. There was no way around it. My primary couldn’t see me until tomorrow, so I went to urgent care. I told him what had been going on, and after talking to his doctor (he is a PA), they decided that I needed a ct scan asap (today or tomorrow, depending on when the place could fit me in), to see my primary tomorrow and tell them what’s happening, to see a neurologist asap, no sex, and to take motrin if another headache starts. Although, they only start with sex, and no sex… so… no motrin.
The diagnosis? At the moment it’s called a sex headaches. Pretty simple. Most of the time they are benign. No cure, no reason behind it, just something that happens. BUT, it can also be a warning sign. A warning sign of an aneurysm, a hemorrhage, or a brain tumor. The medical page I was reading even mentioned that sometimes a small bleed can happen, heal itself, and then reappear later, which could explain why it happened once and then stopped.
I’m scared. I’m really scared. I’m sitting here, writing this, but my ears and my attention are on my phone, waiting for a call. I need that ct scan done.
You know what makes me most upset? The thought that if this is something serious, that something could happen to me and then I wouldn’t get to see my daughter grow up. Then I think about how she is so young she wouldn’t even remember me. Can you imagine? She’s only 1.5, I am her favorite person on the planet, but she wouldn’t remember me. I can’t imagine.
I am so sad. Please think about me this week, and hope the answer is just that it’s a problem I have to deal with. I just don’t know what to do at this point.
It might be nothing…
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