I just deleted a friend from Facebook. A “friend” I “met” on the internet when I was in 9th grade. He’s always been a grade A ass, but I’ve been able to put up with it or ignore it, but today he pissed me off and it was time to cut him off. Ah, it feels so good to delete another person from my Facebook. I wonder why that feels so good? Hmmm…
So, somehow, we got on the subject of Low T. He says that it’s caused by men being “lazy, couch potatoes who won’t get up and exercise and eat right.” So I went a little crazy on him. I know two couples who are struggling to make their families because their husbands have Low T. They are spending thousands of dollars on medical treatments to try and have a child any way they can. I THINK if they could just workout and eat differently, they would. Then later in the conversation (I guess after he Googled it) he said that it could be caused by other things, but that the majority is caused by men just being lazy. I was fuming. My husband doesn’t have the lowest testosterone, but it is lower than average, which causes a low sperm count with low motility and high morphology. This is part of our struggle, and this jackass claiming that he knows all about it because his libido was low once because he hadn’t worked out in a couple weeks makes me SO ANGRY. My husband plays basketball, softball, football, disc golf, regular golf and any other type of sport he can and he also eats right and isn’t over weight.
Did I overreact deleting him? Nope, it was time. He just happened to cross a line he didn’t know he was crossing and then once he was told there was a line and that he was walking all over it, is proceeded to do a dance on top of it and rub his dirty shoes all over it. So glad I don’t have to deal with people like that in my real life. If I did, I would hope that they would be smart enough to believe someone who obviously knows more about it than they do and shut their mouths until they are more informed.
Whew… sorry about the rant, but that really made me upset.
Wifey, Mommy, and What Have You 
I love how people think they know it all! I have deleted my facebook for the time being, that is until this IVF thing is successful 😉
Good luck with everything! I know how hard it is with MFI, it took years to get to where we are now and I am so excited to finally be getting to the point we are at right now!
I thought about deleting it for a while, but that would have my family asking too many questions. Nose-y family members! 🙂 I deleted over 100 people between last fall and today, so it’s a much better atmosphere! That guy I deleted today was always a question mark, but he just recently started messaging me a lot and he got worse with each conversation. People are just insane!
Good job 🙂 I know I have always felt pressure to maintain relationships but at some point it’s like, for what? Who the heck cares? You have tons of people you are friends with. No need to be friends with every single person.. and especially not facebook. Glad you got that twerp off your feed!
Thanks! Me too! Going through something like this changes you so much that I think it’s only natural that it changes who you want to be around!
Ugh, I’m glad you deleted him!! How annoying. I’ve been on the FB delete or hide for a long time now. There are just some things that I do not want or need to see/read!
I actually have been wanting to go through all of my FB friends to ‘clean house’ all together. I should do that soon. You’re right, something about cleaning ppl out of your FB friends DOES feel so good 🙂
That’s so frustrating. We’re dealing with low T (and DH has NO symptoms, is healthy, but no sperm). I hate that he feels like he’s less of a man because of it. I can’t believe that guy. Good for you for deleting him. I don’t know how I would have reacted to something like that.
I definitely let him have it before I deleted him too. Nothing about infertility is amusing to me, especially not people who THINK they know all about it, but are actually idiots.
I hate that you are your husband are having to go through anything like that, and I hate that it makes him feel like less of a man. There is such a horrible stigma with male factor infertility and I think it’s so unfair.
He deserved it! By the way, I’m comforted to know that your hubby had some issues- mine does, too. I don’t know about his T, but some of his semen results are kind of iffy (or worse), so it’s good to hear that you had success.
People are such jerks about fertility issues and other medical issues. Yes, there are some things that you can control, but there are many, many others that are totally out of your hands. Those of us with fertility issues already feel defective enough without people making us feel as if we are to blame for things we just can’t control.
By the way, I haven’t been on Facebook in two years and am loving it. I do miss connecting with relatives and friends I don’t talk to all the time, but it’s been nice to not hear people’s extreme political opinions, brags, judgments, etc.! FB made me start disliking humanity (and even myself) so I had to get off. But, I do totally understand it’s value. I just couldn’t take it!
You are SO lucky you didn’t have to be on Facebook during this election. It had to be the worst political vomit I’ve ever experienced. Even the people who were saying “quit talking about politics!” were driving me crazy.
I quit facebook for about 4 months last year during IUI’s, because I was hating humanity as well, but I eventually went back. I spend most of my time on there talking to friends about TV shows and ignoring, deleting, or blocking all the rest. 🙂
Sounds perfect! 😉 You’ve got to be brutal! Oh, and I agree- I’m so glad I missed the election commentary! My cousin always posts really inflammatory (and unbacked-up) claims about politics.